I want to thank those of you – both here and not here this morning – who have taken the step of formalizing your membership in this community. The two things I like to say to new members are: congratulations (because you’ve joined a wonderful congregation), and thank you (because by your joining, and by bringing the gifts and spirit only you have, you are making it more wonderful still). So, congratulations and thank you.
I must say, though, that you’ve picked an … interesting … time to take this step. There’s supposedly an ancient Chinese saying, “May you live in interesting times,” said not as a blessing, but a curse. “May you live in … interesting … times.” It turns out that it isn’t a bit of ancient Chinese philosophy, yet we certainly can understand using the word “interesting” as an ironic euphemism for … well … for the kind of times we’re living in. And while I could be talking about “the times we’re living in” in relation to this time in our nation, or this time in our city, this morning I’m most interested in the … interesting … times we find ourselves in here in our congregation.
This is a time when many people are questioning whether or not this is the right congregation for them, or who don’t know if they want to, or even if they can, go with it in the direction it seems to be going. This is a time when people are even wondering about whether Unitarian Universalism, as a faith tradition, is what they’d thought it was, and whether they can honestly and with integrity continue to call themselves UUs. As I said, this is very much an … interesting … time to be joining TJMC. You’re joining just as a lot of people are wondering about, and fearing for, the future of the congregation. There are those who are saying that we’re in a time of crisis.
Not me. Not me. I believe firmly that his disconcerting disquiet and disequilibrium we’re experiencing right now is not a problem. I think it’s a good thing, something to lean into it. I see it as an opportunity.
My Mother-in-Law, herself a retired Methodist minister (and well versed in the ways of congregational life), asked me just the other day if what has been happening at our church had “calmed down” at all. I told her that I certainly hope things haven’t calmed down too much. I reminded her of the Rev. Dr. King saying that there are some things to which we all should be “maladjusted.”
I want to be clear that I don’t think being uncomfortable just for the sake of feeling uncomfortable is a good thing. Nor have I forgotten that while the famous description of religion’s purpose is about “afflicting the comfortable,” it also says that our work as a faith community is about “comforting the afflicted.” I know that; I do. Yet don’t we all know how easy it is to move from comfort to complacency? And sometimes it can be hard to keep track of who, in our culture, needs comforting and who’s in need of some afflicting. This isn’t another sermon about our racial justice work, or even about the current controversies surrounding us. I’m really talking this morning about how our faith invites us to live our lives, you and me.
Unitarian Universalist unequivocally calls us to reject complacency in all its forms. At its best, and perhaps more than any other of the organized religious responses to life we humans have developed, it calls on us to refuse to be too settled, too satisfied. It calls on us to question … everything … and to keep on questioning. As one of our hymns puts it, we believe that, “to question is the answer,” or as an old bumper stick said, “Unitarian Universalism – leaving no answer unquestioned.” We are famously not bound by creed or dogma; we are charged with searching for truth and meaning – on our own and in community – and understand this to be a life-long search.
One of my favorite spiritual teachers is the astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson. (If you’ve never seen the video of him giving a talk that’s usually described as “the greatest sermon ever,” it’s well worth Googling when you get home.) He has said that for a real scientist is kind of disappointing if an experiment proves their hypothesis, because then it’s all over and done with. The excitement comes when an experiment doesn’t prove your hypothesis and opens up a whole new host of questions. According to Tyson, it’s the questions, not the answers, which drive the scientific enterprise; scientists are much more interested in exploring the currently-still-mysterious, rather than simply creating a catalogue of the known.
I love this so much because I think that it’s the purpose of our Unitarian Universalist faith as well. When we’re at our best, it’s the enterprise our congregations exist to help each of us, and all of us, engage. We are not supposed to be satisfied with the answers we found ten years ago, fifteen years ago, twenty years ago, or even, necessarily, last year. We believe in evolution not just in biology, but in our understanding as well.
Years ago, while serving another congregation, I had a sign on the board in front of the church for several months. It said: “If you can’t change your mind, how do you know you still have one?” The Christian theologian, and Catholic Saint, Augustine of Hippo said way back in the 5th century, si comprehendis non est Deus. (One of the few bits of Latin I remember.) That translates as, “If you understand it, it’s not God.” And I’d say that whatever terms or images we use to describe Ultimate Reality, that Spirit of Life we sing about most Sundays, our faith calls us to have that same awareness and attitude: if we understand it, it’s not … It. That’s why we’re called to the search for truth and meaning, and not to the celebratory party for truth and meaning discovered.
But this is hard. It is hard to keep questioning our answers. It’s hard to keep looking for new ways of seeing, listening for new ways of hearing, finding new ways of being in the world – especially when the laundry’s been piling up, and the fridge is getting a little empty. With so much … chaos … swirling around us it would be nice to have something solid to hold on to. Yet just as comfort can change to complacency, something solid can easily become something stagnant.
This is why I think that this … interesting … time of disquiet and discomfort is not a crisis but an opportunity. It is an opportunity, for us as individuals and as a congregation, to really wrestle with – or, as I prefer to say – to dance with our principles, our values, and our understandings of things. It’s an opportunity to re-examine what we really believe, something our faith doesn’t dictate to us but, rather, invites us to discover for ourselves. It is an opportunity to ask questions: What does it mean to be truly welcoming if in welcoming some people we unavoidably exclude others? What does it mean to be committed to being a truly safe place for people who have historically been, and are being still, marginalized if it means things we’re accustomed to have to change? What does it mean to disagree with others, risky though that might feel, yet still be one community? (Can we trust each other enough to do that? What does it mean if we can’t?) What does my “belonging” to this community mean? What expectations can I reasonably have, and what can be expected of me? Do my wants, my perceived needs, my desires, my preferences have to be met for me to say that things are “going well”? (What is the measure of the “success,” if you will, of our mutual ministry?) What are the limits – or arethere limits – to my commitment to this place and these people? Do I really belong here?
These are the kinds of questions people say that they’re dancing with these days precisely because of the … interesting … times in which we find ourselves. Yet the truth is, these are the kind of questions we ought to be dancing with all the time!
Mickey ScottBey Jones, an anti-racist organizer, has written about real, deep, transformative relationships with perhaps a surprising metaphor. Deep, transformative relationships are the kind I hope we’d agree we ought to be striving to create here, and we might think of them as cool and comforting, soothing and supportive. Yet Mickey ScottBey Jones wrote:
[R]elationship is the sandpaper that wears away our resistance to change. Relationship is the abrasion that agitates enough to make a way forward … it smooths the way for the sacred, even as it rubs us raw.Relationship is the sandpaper of life.
We are being offered an opportunity – again, as individuals and as a community – to ask ourselves deep and fundamental questions about our faith tradition, our own faith, the purpose of this community (and others like it), and about the meaning of our membership in it. At its best, a faith community offers us an opportunity to discover the way into our fullness, an opportunity to truly bloom. In our faith tradition we are challenged to discover that way for ourselves, and to keep discovering new dimensions of that “way,” so that our blooming can become ever more beautiful and fragrant.
For me, the most important question in all of this is whether we will make good use of this opportunity. The question to that is something that only you, and all of us together, can answer.
[The Parting Words were the well-known quotation about question by Rainer Maria Rilke from Letters to a Young Poet. They are well worth remembering in just about any times, be they … interesting … or not.]
Pax tecum,
RevWik
