As always, don’t treat these questions like “homework” or a list that needs to be covered in its entirety.  Instead, simply pick the one question that speaks to you most and let it lead you where you need to go. The goal of these questions is not to help you analyze what Identity means in the abstract, but to figure out what being a part of a community of Identity means for you and your daily living. So, which question is calling to you? Which one contains “your work”?

1. Which of your contradictions needs celebrated as a wonderful multitude?! (“Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.” ~Walt Whitman)

2. Is it time to pick a new group to tell you who you are? (“Who we are is a direct function of who we are with. We are relational creatures.”. – Rev. Kenn Hurto)

3. Has your struggle become your identity? (“Don’t let your struggle become your” ~Unknown)

4. Is your identity longing for more alone time? (“Privacy is crucial to the sense of self.” – Oliver Stone)

5. Have you thanked your wounds for making you you?

6. Have you become who you pretend to be? (“We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.”~Kurt Vonnegut)

7. Are you living only a slice of yourself? (“It’s never been more asked of us to show up as only slices of ourselves in different places.” ~Courtney Martin)

8. Are you not listening when people tell you who they are? (http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/when-people-show-you-who-they-are-believe-them-video)
   

9. What are you besides your work? (http://www.filmsforaction.org/watch/who-are-you-this-breathtaking-video-might-change-your-life/#.vonql35h-3i.facebook )

10. Are your Valentine’s Day plans about more than filling your sweetheart’s stomach with good food? Did you remember to make sure they also celebrate the part of their identity you love the most?
11. What’s your question? Your question may not be listed above. As always, if the above questions don’t include what life is asking from you, spend the month listening to your days to hear it.